Relationships Advice
Understanding Interpersonal Relationships
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Relationship BreakdownsRelationships can break down for a variety of reasons. The root cause of a relationship breakdown is, I strongly believe, lack of communications. One person starts to think and go one way with different goals, but has not taken the time and effort to communicate that to the other, where the same thing may have happened in terms of thinking about a change of goals or directions since the last time they sat down to really talk about they wanted things to go. The breakdown in communications is the crumbling of the foundation block of the relationship. Another thing that can cause a relationship breakdown is a major change of events. For example, the husband gets passed over at his job for that big promotion that he thought he had in the bag. The wife discovers that she forgot to get the oil changed in the car and now the engine is shot. Similar things happen all the times, but the successful couples can belly up to the bar and talk to their spouse about that, openly. It does not mean they are failures, it does not mean they are complete idiots, it simply is something that happened. But relationship breakdown comes into play when one or the other is unwilling or perhaps even unable to openly talk to the other person about this situation, this bad news, this person crisis. They fear being judged, they fear being yelled at, they fear the belittlement. Whatever the case, silence wins over communication. But then at a time like that, if silence is going to be the winner, was the relationship strong enough in the first place? A strong relationship breeds the need and want to share information, either good or bad. One's self esteem plays a large role in one's willingness to have open communications with their partner. If you do not feel good about yourself, you will have a difficult time in feeling good or comfortable in sharing more than casual conversation with your partner. If something happens in your life that causes you to lose self esteem, it can easily lead to a relationship breakdown because the communications will have been dramatically reduced. Another thing that plays a large part in a relationship breakdown is one's view or perspective of one's partner. If you see your partner consistently doing self-destructive things, like getting involved with drugs or alcohol, that lowers your mental image of that person's standing. And if you do not respect your partner or trust your partner to end the self-destructive behavior or stop the abuse they are causing you, it is inevitable that a relationship breakdown will occur. Do you see the common thread in all of these examples? The fine art of communications is an integral part of a strong and effective relationship. This is true of the marriage relationship as much as it is with relationships that you have with friends and co-workers. If you cannot openly talk with someone, the relationship with that person is going to be strained at best. Strong relationships require strong communications. While communications is certainly not the only thing required to avoid a relationship breakdown, it is certainly a foundational building block. Humanity Love Relationships Key To Building Customer Relationships Teen Relationships Abusive Relationships Relationships And Control Issues Relationships Men Vs Women Relationship Myths
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